The homecoming dance will be perfectly fine without a date—at least that’s what you’ve been telling yourself as the window of time for askings gradually shrink. Maybe you don’t mind at all: you can’t wait to fly solo or roll up with squad. Or maybe you’re still holding onto that idea of going with someone, but feel doubtful. If you think it’s too late to pull together a last-minute homecoming asking, I’m here to tell you it’s not.

So you’re afraid that things are gonna take a bad turn and nothing is going to go down as you hoped? Just remember that the worst thing that can stem from a well-intentioned asking is rejection and maybe some teasing from your friends. You’ll get over it, and in a month, you’ll shake your head and laugh about it. After all, we’ve all had our fair share of embarrassing moments at one point or another. Rest assured, no one will remember in a few weeks anyway. Keep in mind that there are multiple askings per day as the dance draws near, so the spotlight will not be on you for that long. The ways to ask someone to homecoming are limitless, so there’s no pressure to do something you don’t feel comfortable with. (For example, if big crowds make you nervous, you can ask them privately.)   

So now that you’re on board and have realized that your fears were unwarranted, you’re ready to prepare for the asking of the century. But, who to ask? Personally, I would recommend you ask someone that you are friends (or more) with—or at least someone who’s not a total stranger.

Homecoming can be an opportunity for a new relationship to bloom. If you’re on the more reserved side, it may be a good idea to indirectly ask before making big arrangements. You could ask their friend to subtly inquire whether or not you would be turned down. Who you go with can play a big role in your night, so choose someone you’ll have a good time with.

The truth is that this topic should be of concern to anyone, regardless of their interest in taking a special someone to the dance. This is about not taking some things too seriously: not thinking “why?” but instead “why not?”

Most of us only have four homecoming dances, which is why it is important to make the most out of each one — time’s ticking! When it comes to these things, you will never know unless you try.

Simply put, don’t be afraid to ask someone to the homecoming dance. There’s no pressure to go with someone, and absolutely nothing wrong with going alone. But, if you do have someone in mind, don’t allow any fears or self-doubt to get the better of you. So, with that said, take a risk this October. Don’t hold back! Have fun with it, and make this homecoming one for the ages.