Every time a hand is shaken, an email is sent or a LinkedIn connection is made, the sound of the “cha-ching” in one’s mental networking register echoes triumphantly. In contrast, others from the sideline scowl and express contempt toward such means of building connections and labeling the relationships. They argue that the networker comes across as superficial, transactional and parasitic. Despite its potentially negative reception, the act of networking can augment the number of genuine, meaningful connections one can cultivate.
Without the desire to network, guiding one to step out of their bubble and seek out others in the world, one would comparatively lessen the number of interactions they could have. As a result, they might miss out on meeting new people who they have common interests with, even if that person’s main underlying motive does not directly correlate to gaining a friend. Despite the goal-oriented nature of networking, there is a chance of a connection arising in the meeting that leads to a friendship which may not have developed otherwise. For example, if someone wants to cultivate their skills in a sport, they might need to acquire a training partner to improve. One could potentially also feel as though their current connections lack the level of skill, interest or intensity they require to obtain the most effective results. By venturing outside of their social circle and contacting other individuals in the sport, the networker boosts the number of people they know. Although not always a necessity, possessing a commonality is a key factor of many friendships, according to a study published in the Social Science Journal in 2015. Additionally, maintaining a similar aspect of identity involving all parties is the target of networking.
Gunn is a prime example of the hidden benefits of networking in building friendships. It is rife with students who fixate on achieving high-level positions in student organizations, founding initiatives to highlight their strengths and gaining advice and insights from upperclassmen. Students often do so to elevate their college application profile or further themselves intellectually, sociallyand academically. Despite the seemingly negative connotation of overachievement, such underlying motivations can lead to meeting new people and potentially making new friends. Hence, rather than looking at it with disdain, individuals should recognize and accept that networking plays a crucial role in building mutualistic, healthy friendships.
